Sematics or principle or just plain meaness

I am really not sure what my problem is... but here's where I'm coming from today.

Fifteen years ago today - My sister (then 6 months pregnant with her second child) married a man who is leagally still married to her, even though she left him and three children after less than three years of marriage.

Now it's her life... only she can live that life. This I'm good with.

It's the part where she posts on a social network board that 15 years ago she became a wife and mentions till death do us part... yet every year files taxes as single/head of household.

hmmm is it the semantics of became a wife - that floors me the most.... or the part where after having left this family she began... and having said man she married adopt her first born and continue to raise three children as a single dad... she hooked up a time or two with various relationships resulting in another child (who is now 4 1/2) and to me.... that's not a wife.

She now lives with my Dad, unemployed, raising the last munchkin for the most part.

And all I can think is if you don't hold to the action part of the commitment... don't crow about the accumulated years...

So it could be principle... and you know, I'm not beyond thinking... I could just be a mean person and I should forthwith commence praying for my soul because

A) I like the word forthwith (I'm not sure I spelled that right)
B) I should be more open-minded/kind hearted
C) I have no right to judge (this is all too true)
D) Maybe it was better for the kids... she always said it was.

I don't know, but I just had to get that off my chest.

I shall go stand in the corner now and think about what I've said...

What a week

Sunday my oldest Sister came for a visit and stayed until early Thursday. It was the first time she'd gotten to meet Zachary. It was wonderful to see her and she will be back hopefully in August and with my niece and nephew.

We spent Monday visiting my Dad and other sister at his house. Then Tuesday we were up at the Veteran's hospital while my dad had an endoscopy done. Wednesday I had to go back to work and she was going to go home that morning. As a sweet surprise though she stayed the extra day and babysat so Matthew and I could go out for dinner. Zachary took to his Aunt Missa as if she's been here since day one. It was sweet how he watch her every time she walked in the room and even fell asleep when she was holding him.

Up to now, we'd never left Zachary with anyone... we don't have a babysitter. Since Matthew stays home with him for now, he's always with at least one of us. So naturally our dinner out was filled with conversation about the little guy. At the end of the year, Matthew is supposed to go back to work and I still don't know what it's going to be like.

Thursday night during class break - Zachary met his Aunt April for the very first time. It was sweet and sad all at the same time. (drama for another blog, eh?). It was long overdue and he really seemed to like her.

It's all in a week I guess...

My busy life

I've just ended my week with the night pager. (yea!) It's been my worst pager week yet and I'm grateful not to get it back for eight weeks. I have to wonder... what I was thinking getting into IT. I originally wanted to be a teacher but didn't think it would pay well enough to support my family. The hours would have been more predictable and weeks like this, predictability sounds sooo good. Honestly it's still the long range plan. To get my masters so I can teach... sometime in the next 10 years or so.

I'm still taking two bible classes that I need to finish my bachelors degree at JBU. July 16 - I'm done with classes. I'll have to pick up a pe/health credit somewhere and then walk in December. It's only a 20 year project coming to a close. While that makes me feel a bit old, I'm as old as I'm becuase that's when I was born and there's nothing to change it.

My Sebie just turned 18 anyway. He's gone for the summer... maybe longer... I worry. I just don't know. But I've got to believe in him and hope for the best.

My oldest sister will be here Sunday!!!! My house is not clean and there's no time before she gets here. She will not care one bit, but I always do. Oh well. I will just be so glad to see her! She's never met Zachary so that will be wonderful. I might get to see my niece and nephew too. I sure hope so. I have awesome nieces and nephews for the most part. I love having them all together.

Life is busy, ever so busy. Not too shabby though.